Sunday, February 22, 2015

Anita's Life Story  - Chapter IV

One of the most wonderful, enduring memories of our activities at Eugene High School was my membership in the A Cappella choir.  I loved every minute of it.  Wanda, Evelyn and I had the chance to sing in every performance because we were so energetic and dependable.  We loved our choir director and he was one of those people who had a special rapport with young people and could bring talent out of even the least capable singer.  He was drowned  in a terrible accident which devastated all the choir members.  It was never the same after that.
         The move to Oregon was a complete change of life style for us.  As I indicated earlier we were the only teen-age girls in the ward so everyone thought we were pretty special  We brought new ideas, activities and a little “spark” with us.  We were just going into MIA  (the youth organization of the Church) and were anxious to have lots of fun….the only problem was….there were no BOYS!!!  Bishop Lake (Ralph) told us the solution was easy…..just get out and convert some!  So we did and had so much fun during those couple of years as “Belles of the Ball”.
         Evelyn had met a fellow, Phil Cannon, who she had seen a few times and invited him to a MIA activity.  He came and brought the twins Grant and Graham Misbach who were wonderful dancers, so of course they were welcomed with open arms.  The group began to grow and a couple of brothers Bart and Dennis Olsen moved into the ward so things were looking up!  We had great fun.  Wanda by this time had her drivers license so we were indeed independent.  We even had the courage to go and “drag the gut” once in a while.  That was the  expression that was used to go downtown Eugene and drive down the main street, Willamette, which was a one way and the kids who had cars would drive down and turn around and go back down….as long as the gas held out! Great Fun, honking at each other, yelling and getting acquainted with the police officers who kept a pretty good eye out for us.  One officer in particular kind of took extra special watch over us.  I suspect now that he knew our Fathers and was doing them a “favor”. 
         I very much enjoyed my Senior year in high school.  Because I had been what they called a “mid-term” student in California, and because Oregon was on a  different enrollment program, they had no  place for me.  I had most of my credits, I still needed some English and Math requirements to fill.  Lucille Barker, my English teacher arranged for me to do a “Story Hour” on the local radio station (KUGN).  I would adapt the stories, she would approve them and I would go to the radio studio each week and read them over the air.  It was fun, exciting and lot of the students really envied me….because I got out of school early that day!
                    I was also an excellent “debater”.  I was on the school debate team and got to do a lot of fun (at least to me) travel to debate other schools.  I remember one of the subjects was on the formation of the United Nations.  That, of course, was a timely and highly controversial issue at the time.  As I write this today I realize again what a wonderful experience my high school years  were, and how disappointed Mother and Daddy were when my life took the turn that it did.                   
                    About six months after we moved to Oregon, Hazel Vanessa Gibson (Brooks) moved to Eugene with her two daughters, Vivian and Phyllis and a son, Loren.  She had another son, Royal who was just finishing up his duty in the Army.  Vivian and I became the best of friends, actually the closest thing I have ever really had to a sister.  She kept telling me her brother was coming home from the Army and I was going to marry him!  Of course I pooh-poohed the idea, never dreaming what fate had in store!!                                                                                 
                    I need to mention that by this time (1949) the rest of the “clan” had moved from California.  Uncle Ted and Aunt Jane, and Aunt Miriam and Uncle Barney.  Daddy had a half-brother, Jerd and his wife Tenny Mae, had also made the move.  So by now we were quite a clan of Loe’s and Lee’s.  One person’s birthday was everyone’s birthday so we had lots of fun celebrating  all through the year.  Of course. Christmas and Thanksgiving were always huge gatherings as the family always seemed to find someone around who didn’t have family nearby.  I count this as one of my greatest legacy’s.  My Mothers home was always open to friend or relative.  I sincerely hope that will be one of the things I might be remembered for!
                   So, often included in some of our family get togethers, were Vivian. Hazel and Loren.  They became very close friends and joined us in these fun times.  Vivian had a very beautiful singing voice.  One year she was invited to sing “Easter Parade” in a special program we were all invited to.  When my Father heard her sing it must have been the most beautiful thing to him because she never visited that she wasn’t asked to sing that for him!

Falling in love with Royal Brooks was the greatest blessing that could ever have been.  Perhaps his falling in love with me was the greater blessing!  Roy had come to Eugene to be with his Mother and siblings after he got out of the Army.  His cousin, Raymond Webb, whom he had served with in the Army was going to go over to Logan, Utah to attend school.  Congress had passed a bill…..The G.I. Bill of Rights, that gave every returning veteran the opportunity to go into University for further education.  This was a fantastic thing the United States Government did for the returning veterans.  Those who had served during the war were eligible for an opportunity to go on to college with the help of the government.  Roy’s cousin, Raymond Webb, had enrolled at Utah State and talked Roy into going over with him.  This too, was another significant evidence of the Hand of the Lord in our Lives.  It was such a blessing that a I write this 60 years later I can still examine and reflect on what our lives might have been without this opportunity. 
                    The first time I met Roy, Vivian had invited me to their house for dinner (tacos) and a movie.  When I got there Roy was nowhere to be seen!  Soon I could hear
              his Mom in the bedroom giving him the angriest talking to I had ever heard!  She was saying “Roy, you get out there and speak and you be nice!!”  He, in return was saying “I’m not going out there!  I don’t like her and I’m not going out there!!!  It was really quite embarrassing to listen to.  Vivian on one hand telling him she’d never speak to him again! and His Mother threatening him with…..I can’t remember what!!!  Finally he came out of the bedroom and sort of spoke.  We went ahead with dinner, but I was so embarrassed I felt like I wanted to die!     By this time we were ALL almost in tears and not knowing what to do.  I had walked out onto the front porch by this time, not knowing what at all to do.  I had ridden out to their house with Vivian so I was pretty well stuck there!!  Eventually Hazel talked him out of the bedroom…reluctantly…and we met for the first time.  I will have to say that based on that encounter I am surprised either one of us ever spoke…which Roy, in his typical style didn’t do much of anyway! We finally decided to go to the movie, but all of this resistance had taken so long that we didn’t have tine to eat the rest of our tacos.  So we wrapped them in aluminum foil and off we went!  For people so shy and not wanting attention you can imagine the reaction around us when we pulled out our tacos..,.they really did smell up the theater.  (you must remember this was in the olden days when people didn’t eat in theaters, except for a little popcorn!).         The movie was “Red River Valley” with John Wayne and Maureen O’Sullivan.  That is about all I can remember about that evening…except I thought Roy was more handsome than any of the actors on the screen!  Vivian also had a date…he had the car, and they took me home right after the movie was over.  My parents lived about 10 miles north of Eugene on a five  acre ranch with a cow and lots of hay!
                   From there, our courtship didn’t have anywhere to go but up!  But it sort of took a long time to head that direction.  We had made a date for Roy to pick me up after school….at the school.  I waited and waited and he didn’t show!  Of course, I was furious.  That was IT! It turned out that He had worked the graveyard shift at the service station where he had gotten a job and had gone  home to take a little “nap”!  It turned out that he had slept 18 hours straight.  He was lucky he didn’t lose his job, but he redeemed himself with me (I can’t remember how) and things went on.                             
                        In retrospect, my parents were so very against our getting married.  They thought I was too young!  Roy didn’t have a job!  He had come from a “broken” home..just about anything they could think of.  My Dad promised me a brand new car if I wouldn’t get married.  They of course wanted me to go on to college, which hadn’t been mentioned until then!
      Hazel Brooks was personnel manager at the Sears,Roebuck Store in Eugene and got me a job decorating windows and dressing mannequins in the store.  I felt like I was pretty lucky to get that job.  I bought a few things for a“hope chest” (it was mostly hope!)  We were quite fortunate in the generous gift giving at our wedding reception and seemed to be able to set up housekeeping quite nicely. 
         A few words about our wedding.  we went to Salt Lake so that we could be married in the Temple.  My Parents had not been to the Temple so  they weren’t able to go with us.  Aunt Sidna had gone as  a child so she was able to go through with us.  It was a beautiful, wonderful experience.                                                                  
                    I was the first of the teen age girls to get married out of that group of church young people and the Ward went all out to express their love and support.  We had a beautiful reception , received many lovely  gifts, some of which I still use in my home today!  Throughout these many years, it is always  thrill to go to Eugene and see people who remember  us as young, and adventuresome.  Our wedding date, September 2, 1949 of course remains a special day for us.  Even today I pinch myself and feel deep gratitude for the wonderful fifty seven years I have been blessed to share with a wonderful man.  We made some enduring friendships there in Eugene and its always a thrill to see those few people who are left from that era of our lives.
                    
            My relationship with Roy’s family has always been wonderful,  They all…..aunts, uncles, cousins were always loving and kind to me.  When we were so poor getting anything new in the way of clothing was just out of the picture.  Aunty Martha worked in a dress shop in Chino, California and passed on many, many items of clothing that were a real joy for me to have something…..anything new.                                                                                
      
Daddy was so sure he would never be able to work again that he was making preparations to “live off the land”.  They had a few animals and hay planted.  It was really a big departure for a girl who had spent what life she could remember in the ‘city’ with buses to ride and close neighbors.  
            Things at home were beginning to loosen up somewhat,  Daddy’s health was returning and he was beginning to feel stronger.  As I look back I can appreciate more and more the worry and work it was on Mother.  She was not that many years away from the time spent down after Cal’s birth.  They were workers! She would go out and milk the cow every morning.  Belva learned to milk really well.  I could never stand the feeling of the cow’s teats in my hand … which is why my assignments were always in the house, I guess.  I did learn to cook and clean!!  I liked it, although I’m sure I did my share of complaining.  Mother was an excellent cook.  She believed in lots of butter and cream, which we had….and yet!! Standing by her side was not magic because she had lots of little tricks that I never learned, however I did learn many things that helped me as I attempted to start my own “kitchen” at a fairly young age.            
            Life was so fun!  Our extended family activities were almost continual with birthdays, holidays and just about any excuse to get together.  With Mother being the “cook” of the family she was the “queen” and she did relish the title!
            Before I met Roy,  I met my first really serious boyfriend.  His name was Gene Simmons. He was from Louisiana and had a very heavy accent.  My folks didn’t like him at all.  I thought he was very handsome.  He had very curly blonde hair and beautiful teeth.  We had a lot of fun together.  Just silly kids but full of life.  One reason Mother and Daddy didn’t like him , I’m sure was because we had exchanged rings.  They had given me a beautiful ruby ring for my birthday and they were very proud of that.  Gene’s ring wasn’t quite as nice as mine.  They never did quite believe that he lost it.  Any way after that, He moved back to Louisiana!!!  I enjoyed my life very much, things were just fun!!! I must editorialize for a moment, it seems like more than my short lifetime ago that we were so “innocent” at that age.  When I look at my grandchildren and realize how very difficult the world is now, I wonder how I would have endured the challenges that they are faced with each day.
            After I met Roy my life changed dramatically. I was finishing high school, was head over heels in love and very conflicted at home.  My parents had planned so strongly on my going on to college.  I’m sure they could see the writing on the wall and it wasn’t what they had planned for me.  I can appreciate now their disappointment.  Wanda, Evelyn and I were the first of their posterity to graduate high school and the thought of having children go on to college was a great milestone for them. If they had been in a position to get me right into college that summer it may have been different, but we had the summer to date and fall more deeply in love before Roy left to go to Logan, Utah to attend Utah State University.  He was going to become an engineer…whatever that meant, but it was a long separation for us and we pretty well knew we wanted to get married.    
         We set our wedding date for September 2, 1949.  We had no car…no money….and were completely dependent on my folks to get back and forth to the Temple in Salt Lake City, Utah.  Mother drove their car with Aunt Sidna, Evelyn, Belva, Roy and me as passengers!  Mother’s brother, Bronson Lee, lived in Salt Lake and Roy’s sister Phyllis also lived a little way out in a suburb of Salt Lake.  Phyllis came to get Roy and the rest of us spent the night at Uncle Bronson and Aunt June (Lee).  They were very hospitable and tried to help make it a wonderful and exciting experience.  Mother was not at all in the mood to have any fun or happiness connected to the occasion.  I’m sure it was because they didn’t know Roy all that well and were so disappointed in our decision to marry so soon.   
         The Temple was very full and busy.  Aunt Sidna went through with us (she had gone through the St. George Temple many, many years before when she was just a child and stood proxy for her own Mother who had died in childbirth) and I was so grateful for her because I was so afraid.  I had heard many terrible stories from people who didn’t know what they were talking about, concerning the Temple, it’s ordinances and treatment of brides, etc, that she was my salvation that day.  
         Our wedding ceremony was finally performed about 10:00 p.m.  I was exhausted, afraid and I don’t think I actually realized I was MARRIED!!!  It was almost 11:00.  We were both hungry, tired, excited and didn’t know what came next!  Mother,et al, were waiting….also tired and ready to be through!  We left the Temple, met Mother and Uncle Bronson, they took Aunt Sidna and left Roy and I on foot to walk to the hotel where he had made reservations.  We started walking down East Temple looking for someplace to have a bite to eat.  We did find one restaurant open so went in.  Of course, that time of night the menu was pretty well depleted .  I had a toasted cheese sandwich and Roy had…….LIVER AND ONIONS !!!   That shows a bit about our level of “culture” at that stage in life’. 
         We started for home the next morning,  our little troupe of a “wedding party”.  I guess we didn’t get too early a start because we only made it as far as Reno, Nevada and it was getting fairly late.  The only thing Mother could find (she said) was one room with three double beds in it….all in a row.  We have had some fun with this as the years have passed, but at the time it was    horrible.  For whatever reason, Mother put Roy and me in the MIDDLE BED!!  What kidding we’ve taken through the years.  Belva says she laid in her bed all night praying…”.please don’t let Roy touch her                                                                                                                                        I think Roy and I were both thinking the same thing because I don’t think even our toes brushed together!  It was quite an ordeal for all of us.  I’m sure Mother was just not thinking.  I’m quite certain she didn’t have the money for two rooms and Roy certainly didn’t.  But we have had great fun with that through the years.
      We had a wonderful reception in Eugene.  The members of the ward were wonderful to us.  We received many beautiful gifts which was a great blessing because we literally didn’t have anything.  We couldn’t even take all the gifts we had been given with us, for lack of room in Roy’s 1946 green Chevrolet.  We were packed at tightly as could be, but left the more “impractical” (crystal, silver ) gifts at Mother and Daddy’s.  We have been so blessed and enjoyed many wonderful, beautiful treasures in our lifetime together.  
                    We left Eugene adventurous, naïve and oh! so in love.  Roy’s old Chevrolet was packed to the last available inch.  It was quite emotional for me because I had never really been away from home before.  It was a real conflicting set of emotions because it seemed so far away and yet so exciting to be starting our on our own.  I had just turned 18 and looking back, compared with today’s society, could just as well have     been 10 years old!   We drove to Bend, Oregon spent the night then went on to Logan, Utah the next day.  Roy had made arrangements for us to rent a Quonset Hut which had been moved onto the campus to solve the housing problem when the military boys started coming home from the war.  They had divided them in half and put up a very thing wall to create two apartments of one hut.  We could hear each other whisper, hear the toilets flush and know what the other couple was having for dinner!  It was terrible!  But the worst problem was the bedroom!  It was large enough to accommodate one TWIN sized bed!  and that was all!!  For two tall people who had both been used to sleeping alone all their lives it was the first of many adjustments.   It also had a coal stove.  Now I had never seen a lump of coal in my life and somehow fate created us to be enemies!  Roy would “bank” up the stove before he left for school and tell me not to touch it.  After He had been gone about an hour it would look like it was going out so I would take the poker and move the coals around….just a little bit so it wouldn’t go out ….and sure enough …It would. No fire and all, and very soon no coals either!  By the time he arrived back home mid-afternoon there was no sign of a fire or even a burning ember. I was freezing, crying, not dressed and hungry…not a pretty sight to come home to!  We managed to stick it out about three months, miserably, when one of Roy’s buddies heard of an apartment very close to where he lived.                                                                               
So we did some investigating and learned that there was an apartment on the second floor of a big old “Utah” house.  It had been split up and made into several apartments and we were able to be one on the top floor.  We had to share a bath with another couple on the floor, but that was sort of OK because The other couple were both students and gone all day.  We enjoyed it very much.  The owners family was wonderful to us and we became quite good friends.  Evelyn was in School ay BYU and had a boyfriend who lived in Corrine, Utah so she came to visit us several times.  We had s lot of fun during those years.  Everyone was broke, trying to get educations. Struggling, but very happy in our ignorance of a better way of life at that time.   Evelyn really loved Lloyd Hubbard but she couldn’t get her parents approval because He was so short.   Uncle Roy just wouldn’t agree to it.
One of my first experiences at having a dinner party was when Evelyn was visiting us….she was a student at BYU and had come up to spend the weekend with us and what she hoped would be her boyfriend.  I put a pot of pinto beans on to cook for dinner.  One of our wedding presents from my folks had been a complete set of “revere” dinner ware (which I am still using today) which included a small pressure cooker.  I read in the cook book that it would be about a half hour coking time.  What the book didn’t tell me was that the beans had to be soaked first!...or I missed that part in the reading somehow….I cooked them and had the cabbage all ready to serve in a half hour with the  beans.  The cabbage was done just right but the beans were still…crunchy!?!  I kept cooking the beans and  warming the cabbage. The beans took about two and a half hours to cook and by then the cabbage was slimy and brown.  NOT MY BEST MEAL!!  I have since become a somewhat “adequate” cook, but I remember my embarrassment about that meal to this day!!! We had to leave that apartment under rather stressful circumstances also.  One night we were going to go out and I fixed dinner early so we could get ready.  It was in the middle of winter and I had done the laundry and of course had to hang everything on the outside clothes lines.  Roy had come in and I thought had gone into the bathroom to take his bath to get ready to go out.  Rather, he had gone outside to bring in the clothes for me.  I heard the tub running in the bathroom so opened the door and saw him undressed leaning over the tub adjusting the water, so I went in playfully ??   tickled him and said “ding. Dong Daddy…dinner’s ready”  The person who looked around…not smiling, was not Roy, but the fellow from down the hall!  Of course, I screamed….so did he!!  I went running into our apartment totally mortified.  I cried and cried but we just couldn’t stay there for fear I’d run into him again!
 I feel sure that Roy has to be wondering who….or what he’s married !   Somehow He has always been understanding and never made me feel more mortified than I have already made myself feel.  We started looking around and found a darling little tri-plex, closer to school and a little more room.  It actually had a kitchen!  We felt so lucky that we could afford it and made the move as soon as possible.  It had a pull down bed in the living room, a small kitchen and bath.  We were very happy not to have to share anything.  It was there we were living when Wanda and Pat Wright came to Logan with Aunt Sidna to be married in the Logan Temple.  Wanda and Aunt Sidna stayed with us the night before the wedding and it was such a treat for us to be able to have company!  We went to the Temple with them.  We have stayed close and have shared many wonderful   memories throughout the years.                                                                                                               
         People were so good to us and were always giving us things to try, to help us get by more comfortably.   Roy’s very good friend, Gordon Flammer, whose parents had a farm in Logan, was always passing on to us things to help us out.  One time they butchered a pig and gave us all the fat to render down for the lard.  I followed all thetions ….but went to bed that night forgetting that it was still in a “slow oven’.  The next morning I went in and snapped on the kitchen light and ……BOOM….the whole kitchen ignited and melted everything in it…including the knobs on the cabinets.  Well, needless to say we made another move!  As I look back and reminisce at the experiences we had I more fully appreciate the hand of the Lord in guiding our lives.  I was such an inexperienced, naïve 18 year old.  
         This time we moved into a basement apartment.  The winter’s in Logan were ferocious and it was cold.  Our apartment had a door that opened into the furnace room and many times I would go in there and sit just to feel a little extra warmth.  We had made a wonderful circle of friends, some Roy’s classmates and some from the ward we lived in.  We stayed in contact for several years after leaving Logan but gradually as time and moves, children and jobs , just life in general caused us to lose track of each other. 
                       A moment of digression in my thoughts, We have always been so very, very blessed to meet, enjoy and maintain wonderful, wonderful friends.  As we lived away from family for so many years these friends became our family so to speak and have filled a very large space in our hearts.  As I write this I must comment that just last week we were with our “supper club” group that we have been part of for 28 years and what a joy and delight that association has been.  We are all getting older but still have fun and enjoy our time together.    
                         The little apartment we lived in was in the home of a Stake Patriarch, Hyrum Carlton.  We got very well acquainted with him and after some time of his knowing me, he asked me to record blessings for him as he gave them.  I found that to be a very special experience and realized the preparation that is made spiritually by those holding that calling.  He was a widower at that time so I used to take servings of casseroles, bread and desserts to him when I felt
they were good enough.  He was wonderful to us and really took us under his wing.  When I learned I was pregnant with David so soon after Vivian’s birth, he was very consoling, assuring  me that the Lord had chosen very  “special” women to bear very special spirits in the last days.  I certainly think that is true as David has been special and brought us much joy. 
            The time passed quickly, Roy graduated with honors and he started interviewing for employment.  He had done well and had several job opportunities, we were at a point that I really didn’t realize was such a critical one.  The decision He made                                              was to impact our lives greatly.  One opportunity was with the Highway Department in Oregon and the other with the U. S. Government at the Salinity Laboratory in Riverside. CaliforniaRiverside was “old stompin” grounds for Roy, of course, having been raised there.  Several of his aunts and uncles still lived there so that was a big attraction.  After interviewing and praying he made the decision to go to Riverside. It was a very dramatic turning point in our lives.  We didn’t own a car so it was a challenge as to get what few things we had moved.  My parents bought us a little Studebaker Car and we packed all our belongings plus the two kids and headed off into the “lone and dreary world”.  I seemed like such an adventure. Little did I realize that it was only the beginning of an adventurous life that would take us “around the world and back again”.  
     When we arrived in Riverside Roy’s “Aunty” Bertha and Uncle Bill Took us in and were so wonderful.  Uncle Bill was an avid “roller derby” fan and Aunty Bertha a marvelous pie maker so every night after dinner we would watch TV and eat pie. We found a house just around the corner from them and moved into it.  After a couple of months we realized we had “bitten off more than we could chew” and started looking for a more affordable house.  We found one in an area called Mira Loma, which was very near the area Roy’s grandparents had lived.  So we rented it and moved into it.  We stayed there for about two years then began “moving up in the world” and found a lovely            two bedroom house closer to the little town of Glen Avon.  We really enjoyed the community and Roy was made Branch President.  There was a wonderful group of young people about our age who were in the same stage of life….having babies and starting careers.  We went to Stake Dances as a group, had dinner in each other’s homes and just enjoyed being young, broke most of the time, but happy!                                                                                                                           
      We had a lot of septic tank problems there.  A layer of “hard pan” soil made it difficult for the drainage to keep up with the needs.  Someone at the Salinity Lab mentioned to Roy that sometimes you could break that hard pan up by dropping a stick of dynamite down the septic tank. He decided to try it!!  He bought the dynamite and chose a Saturday morning to be THE day.  Of course the kids were all excited because they had heard Daddy discussing all the possibilities.  One matter of concern was whether to use one stick of dynamite or two.  He decided that because of the hardness of the soil that possibly two would be more effective.  THE day arrived and of course it seemed to have grown in magnitude!  Several of the neighbors learned of the endeavor because of course they faced the same problems with that difficult soil as we did and Mr. Brooks worked in soils and drainage so he MUST know something about what he was about to do.  He got everything set up and was ready to go.  The crowd had gathered, the anticipation was high because we had cautioned the kids that it was going to be very, very important that they not move from where we had told them to stand.  The moment arrived when it was time to drop the dynamite into the tank.  He did!!  And BOOM.  It worked!  Soil, Rocks  and other contents blew into the sky and over quite a wide area.  WHAT A MESS.  One of the neighbors was heard to say in shock and disbelief……..”that looks like human excrement!”  Well to make a long, long story shorter, we moved from the neighborhood very shortly thereafter.  I don’t think Roy has ever bought another stick of dynamite,                                       
  Our next house was in the area of “Sunnyslope”.  Actually right across the road from    where Roy’s Grandpa and Grandma Gibson had lived.  He had spent a lot of time with               them as he was growing up so he was well acquainted with that area.  It was quite a long way from the Salinity Lab and of course we were lucky to have one car, so I spent most of my time at home being a mom.  Once again the Church filled a huge need in my life.  We got active in the little Branch there and made some very good friends.  (My dearest friend, Beverly Harrington and I are in contact at this time  (2006) and continue to enjoy our visits via telephone.) 
    At that time the Riverside Stake sponsored a dance (in the Chapel in downtown Riverside) every month.  That was our big night out!  We would get a baby sitter, get really “dressed up” and go with our group from the branch.  This included the Bascomb’s, Wooley’s, Harrington’s, Longdon’s.  We stayed in contact with these friends for quite a few years after we left Riverside but as I write this are still only in contact with Beverly Harrington Kraemer.  She has been a wonderful friend all these many years.
    About this time also, Roy was made Branch President of the little branch in Mira Loma.  This was a real learning experience and the first of a lifetime of many different callings in the Church.  He has enjoyed many, many callings and has always excelled in each one.  I, too, have enjoyed many various callings and feel that this has been a very positive influence in my life.  I learned many things from the older sisters in the various wards we’ve lived in that my Mother didn’t have time to teach me because I married so young and moved away from her geographically.  We were blessed, in that my family always worked hard to see each other often.  We enjoyed many visits from various family members from time to time.  Mom Brooks and Vivian were living in Las Vegas at this time so we were also lucky enough to have visits from them often.  Our children were always so excited when the Grandmas and Grandpa would  come to visit because it meant treats and excursions that we couldn’t afford at that time.  Grandma Brooks was always a special treat because she liked to have “fun” and was pretty inventive in places to go,  My Mother was inclined to “cook up a storm” so there were always extra cakes and pies around when she was visiting.     
         We were on a very tight budget.  Roy was making fairly good money for the time and his education.  His salary in 1952 was $3475.00 per year and that was about average for government wages at that time.  We had two children, were paying about $50.00 a month for housing.  One car meant I stayed home most days, the Salinity Lab was about 15 miles from our house so there weren’t many days I had a car.  I was busy with two “babies”, laundry, cooking and every day activities.  I didn’t occur to me to be “bored” or unhappy.  It was life!  Roy’s “boss” at the Salinity Lab, Ronald Reeve and his “Alie” took us under their wing and really “nurtured” us, far and above the caring for a new colleague.  People have always been so good to us  and seemed to go the extra mile in being kind and helpful to us.                                                                                                                              
            After Roy was made Branch President in the Mira Loma Branch of the Church our life changed dramatically.  There were many in that small branch that had “problems” and He started having lots of calls and visits to make.  It seems like there were many…perhaps not as many as I seem to remember, that were in need of assistance and I made a lot of trips to the welfare center.  My good friend Beverly Harrington, used to go over to Pomona with me to pick up welfare orders.  It was kind of a fun outing because the Church was paying for the gas, Beverly would take her children and I would have mine and we would make an outing of it.  Sometimes we could squeeze out the cost of an ice cream cone around the trip which made it really, really fun for the kids.  I can remember, being young, feeling some resentment at all the food and provisions I would pick up for others when it seemed like we needed it worse than they did!  But it was fun and gave us time away that we might not otherwise have had.                                                                    
            We were very needed in that small branch and did build some wonderful and lifetime memories.  One activity that we really forward to each month was the Stake Dance in Riverside.  It was such a highlight to get together with our friends and go as a group together.  There were at least five couples that would make it every month and it was such a wonderful time.  We would plan all month on what to wear and do our hair, save for the baby sitter.  Not more than twice or three times a year we could squeeze out enough to go to dinner before the dance or so somewhere afterwards for a piece of pie,  It was fun.  Avery tight knit group who truly loved each other as family and would come to each other’s aid when needed.  One of the couples, Bill and Eloise Bascomb had a baby born with a hair-lip and cleft palate. It was such a trauma for all of us.  She called on me to come and take her home from the hospital, it was a shock and experience I have never forgotten.  I have always felt a deep gratitude for the health and strength of our children as they have come to us.
      Roy was doing very well professionally.  He was doing some significant work in irrigation and drainage with Ronald C. Reeve who was an expert in the field.  It was the beginning of a long and very successful career, one which took us all over the world and put his name in many professional journals.  He has  traveled extensively giving lectures and participating in professional seminars.  It also opened many doors which later took us into the international life.  The Reeves were so wonderful to us.  They never failed to open their doors to us and before we could hardly sit down she had something for us to eat.  We needed “nurturing” and a sense of family and they certainly provided that.  Ron was also a mentor for Roy professionally and was very generous with his professional experience.          
                Our time in Riverside was certainly a growing and maturing period of our life.  Roy’s Aunt Bertha (Hazel’s sister)  and her husband (Bill Miller) would open their home any time we stopped by.  “Aunty” Bertha made the most wonderful apricot pie.  She would peel the apricots and make a real “short” crust and they were “more” than delicious.  Uncle Bill was also a roller derby fanatic derby , so we would eat apricot pie and watch the derby matches.  Wonderful Memories!!
            We bought our first home. What a thrill.  It was a lovely, small three bedrooms, living room, dining room and kitchen.  We had great fun building  bookcases out of chain and brick, refinishing old dining room furniture (the table of which Kathleen is using today as a game table).  I made draperies, shopped every garage sale and checked out the city dump frequently for discarded items.             
As I remember back, there was certain thrill and sense of accomplishment was a true joy!  We were so proud of what we had and spent a lot of time there.              

 
A Dave Brooks Reunion at Bear Lake
RHB